SIEZE THE MOMENT! Opportunities are constantly either coming to you or by you. Today was once the future from which you expected so much in the past. Horatio Dresser said, "The ideal never comes. Today is ideal for him who makes it so." Live for today. Don't let what you have within your grasp today be lost entirely because the future intrigues you and the past disheartens you.
Doing your best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment. When can you live if not now? All the flowers of tomorrow are in the seeds of today. Seneca said, "Begin at once to live." Ellen Metcalf remarked, "There are many people who are at the right place at the right time but don't know it." It is okay to take time to plan, but when the next moment of action has arrived, stop thinking and go for it!
Marie Edgeworth declared,
There is no moment like the present. The man who will not
execute his resolutions when they are fresh on him can have
no hope from them afterwards; for they will be dissipated, lost
and perished in the hurry and scurry of the world or sunk in
the slough of indolence.
The most important thing in our lives is what we are doing now: "This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it."
Martial warned, "Tomorrow, life is too late; live today."
Wayne Dyer observes, "Now is all we have. Anything that has ever happened, anything that is ever going to happen to you, is just a thought." Today, well lived, will prepare you for both the opportunities and obstacles of tomorrow.
Wednesday 27 November 2013
Monday 4 November 2013
Your Personal Healing Paradigm Shift
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines the word paradigm as being, “example, pattern; especially :
an outstandingly clear or typical example or archetype.” Thomas Kuhn
coined the term “paradigm shift” in 1962 in his book, “The Structure of
Scientific Revolutions” to mean a change in the basic assumptions, or
paradigms, within a dominant ruling theory of science. On a personal
level, a paradigm shift is a change within or an change from within your
perception of the world or Self that is a break from an old way of
thinking or being. When you experience a paradigm shift you are breaking
away from old patterns, thoughts, behaviors, etc. But what comes after
that? Sure, it is fantastic to know what you don’t want but it’s even
more important to visualize, imagine, or simply think about what you do
want or how you will be once you break through. Often people have an
awareness on a conscious level that they are tired of their old
behaviors; that their old habits and patterns of being in the world are
no longer useful and even causing them pain. They want to break out of
these old assumptions but they don’t have a clear picture of what or
even who they are without these old behaviors. And, quite often, on a
subconscious level all they know is the pain pattern (old behavior);
they have no reference for what life is like without their old patterns
and beliefs.
Whether it is dis-ease, anxiety, low Self-worth, or even chronic pain. We have the ability to create our personal paradigm shift. We have a level of consciousness, even a functioning place in our brains, that lets us envision a new way of being. When we can’t seem to do this on our own that’s when a guide of some sort becomes extremely important. Whether it is a community of friends, a spiritual leader, or a therapist, the goal in most counseling situations is to create that shift. For my clients I often “hold the space” for their health, abundance, wellness, etc. When they cannot “see/taste/smell/sense” the change and how they want to be in the world I do this for them. I hold space for their future development and treat them as if they are already healed thus giving them a sense of knowing what it is like to be their future self. When they are caught in the drama of their story it’s important to stop telling your old pain filled story and start telling a new story from the perspective of six months from now; from their future. When you can tell a new story from your future, from a time when all the current pain/frustration you are feeling has already been healed then these thoughts and feelings created in the present moment act like a beacon guiding your body, mind, and even cells towards the healing you are desiring. It is more then just thinking positive thoughts. This rapid healing process involves positive thoughts, true feelings based upon those thoughts and the experiences you create from having them, and focusing on the gratitude of having already been healed.
So, are you ready to start telling a new story? Tell a story to your immune system about how thankful you are for the amazing healing that has happened. Tell the story to your Mind of your abundance and how fantastic it is that you learned the lesson of lack that life needed you to experience and how upon learning to value yourself you were valued by others and financially rewarded for this change. Tell the story of sobriety to your heart about the deep forgiveness that you experienced once you forgave yourself and those who abused you. Tap into the strength that you discovered deep within yourself that you now share with others as an example of learning to love yourself.
Say out loud and claim for yourself, “I am whole! I am healed! I am grateful for the opportunities I had to release my pains (insert your personal gratitude here) for these experiences taught me so much. I am now a better person because of them and it’s awesome to look back and see how much I’ve healed. I appreciate my past and I look forward to an ever expanding future of loving abundance. All this and more…and so it is!”
Whether it is dis-ease, anxiety, low Self-worth, or even chronic pain. We have the ability to create our personal paradigm shift. We have a level of consciousness, even a functioning place in our brains, that lets us envision a new way of being. When we can’t seem to do this on our own that’s when a guide of some sort becomes extremely important. Whether it is a community of friends, a spiritual leader, or a therapist, the goal in most counseling situations is to create that shift. For my clients I often “hold the space” for their health, abundance, wellness, etc. When they cannot “see/taste/smell/sense” the change and how they want to be in the world I do this for them. I hold space for their future development and treat them as if they are already healed thus giving them a sense of knowing what it is like to be their future self. When they are caught in the drama of their story it’s important to stop telling your old pain filled story and start telling a new story from the perspective of six months from now; from their future. When you can tell a new story from your future, from a time when all the current pain/frustration you are feeling has already been healed then these thoughts and feelings created in the present moment act like a beacon guiding your body, mind, and even cells towards the healing you are desiring. It is more then just thinking positive thoughts. This rapid healing process involves positive thoughts, true feelings based upon those thoughts and the experiences you create from having them, and focusing on the gratitude of having already been healed.
So, are you ready to start telling a new story? Tell a story to your immune system about how thankful you are for the amazing healing that has happened. Tell the story to your Mind of your abundance and how fantastic it is that you learned the lesson of lack that life needed you to experience and how upon learning to value yourself you were valued by others and financially rewarded for this change. Tell the story of sobriety to your heart about the deep forgiveness that you experienced once you forgave yourself and those who abused you. Tap into the strength that you discovered deep within yourself that you now share with others as an example of learning to love yourself.
Say out loud and claim for yourself, “I am whole! I am healed! I am grateful for the opportunities I had to release my pains (insert your personal gratitude here) for these experiences taught me so much. I am now a better person because of them and it’s awesome to look back and see how much I’ve healed. I appreciate my past and I look forward to an ever expanding future of loving abundance. All this and more…and so it is!”
Friday 1 November 2013
HOW TO PREVENT HEART DISEASE
Heart disease is an umbrella term that covers a variety of
cardiovascular conditions, including blood vessel diseases, coronary
artery disease, arrhythmia, congenital heart defects and infections of
the heart. Although heart disease is a serious condition, there are some
simple lifestyle choices you can make to lower your risk of developing
it.
METHOD 1: MAKE THE EFFORT TO QUIT SMOKING.
If you do not smoke now, don’t start. Find an appropriate method for quitting smoking that works for you. Some people prefer to wean themselves off cigarettes by cutting back on the amount smoked each day. Others find better results when they quit cold turkey and abruptly give up all cigarettes at once.
Speak with your doctor about medications and other smoking cessation aids that he can prescribe to help you break your smoking habit. Inquire about local support groups in your area for individuals who are trying to quit smoking.
Eliminate exposure to all tobacco products, including chewing tobacco. Stay away from smokeless tobacco. It contains nicotine, which narrows your blood vessels, forcing your heart to work harder. This leads to an increase in blood pressure and elevates your heart rate, which increases your risk of heart disease.
Steer clear of all second-hand smoke. In addition to nicotine, it is full of carbon monoxide, which replaces some of the oxygen in the bloodstream when inhaled. When this happens, the heart is forced to work harder to supply oxygen to the body, which causes blood pressure to increase and elevates heart disease risk.
METHOD 2: EXERCISE REGULARLY TO MAINTAIN YOUR WEIGHT.
Engage in some type of physical activity for a minimum of 30 minutes per day, 5 days per week or more. Not only does exercise directly lower heart disease risk, it also indirectly lowers your chances of developing heart disease.
Exercise regularly to help keep your weight at a healthy level, which reduces your risk of developing conditions that can lead to poor heart health, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol and type 2 diabetes.
Exercise regularly to relax and unwind, which can significantly decrease your stress levels. Elevated stress levels are a risk factor for the development of heart disease.
Consider taking an active lifestyle approach to exercise if you cannot fit 30 consecutive minutes of exercise into your daily schedule. Increase the amount of physical activity you perform each day by incorporating tiny changes to your everyday routine. Take the stairs instead of the elevator, go for a 10 minute walk during your lunch break, walk to the bus stop to pick up the kids instead of driving, etc.
METHOD 3: CONSIDER OTHER FACTORS.
Carefully watch your weight as you age. As we age, we are more susceptible to weight gain. Individuals who are overweight are more likely to develop health conditions that increase their risk of developing heart disease, such as high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels and diabetes.
Calculate your body mass index (BMI) to determine if you have excess body fat and are at a healthy weight for your height. A BMI of 25 or higher is considered overweight and is associated with elevated heart disease risk. Although BMI is a good tool for providing general body fat information, it does not take into account specific body types or the fact that muscle weighs more than fat.
Use a tape measure to measure your waist circumference. A measurement of 40 inches or above is considered overweight for men, and a measurement of 35 inches or above is overweight for women. Because abdominal fat is especially dangerous and associated with an increased risk of heart disease, wait circumference measurements are an effective tool in weight management.
METHOD 4: EAT HEART-HEALTHY FOOD.
Choose foods that are low in unhealthy fats and cholesterol. Eliminate all trans-fat and saturated from your diet. Tran-fat is the most dangerous type of fat and is linked to a host of negative side effects. Both types of fat are linked to increases in blood pressure and an elevated risk of developing heart disease. Decrease the amount of foods you eat that contain these type of fats, such as red meats, full-fat dairy products, palm oils, fried foods, packaged foods, margarine, and processed baked goods.
Boost your intake of foods that contain Omega-3 fatty acids, a healthy type of polyunsaturated fat. Omega-3 fatty acids offer protection from heart disease and can be found in foods such as salmon and mackerel; flaxseed, walnut and canola oil and in certain vitamin and mineral supplements.
Increase the amount of fruits and vegetables that you consume each day. Set a goal of 10 servings of fresh or frozen produce per day. The healthy plant substances found in fruits and vegetables can help prevent heart disease.
Opt for whole grains. They are an excellent source of fiber and contain several healthy nutrients that can help regulate blood pressure and improve overall heart health.
Replace refined grain products with whole grain products.
Choose whole-wheat flours, 100% whole grain bread, high-fiber cereal, whole grain pasta, steel-cut oats, brown rice and barley.
Stay away from white or refined flours, white bread, frozen waffles, biscuits, corn bread, egg noodles, granola bars, high-fat snacks, quick breads, cakes, pies, donuts and buttered popcorn.
Add flaxseed to your diet. Flaxseeds are high in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids, and can help to lower cholesterol levels. The seeds can be eaten whole or ground up, and can be sprinkled on yogurt, oatmeal, cold cereal, and applesauce. They can be tossed in salads and added to smoothies.
Pay attention to your portion size when eating. Although what you eat is important for heart health, how much you eat is also a factor in improving overall heart health. Refrain from overeating, which can lead to excess fat, cholesterol and calorie intake.
METHOD 5: SCHEDULE HEALTH SCREENINGS
Have blood pressure checked regularly, a minimum of every two years. If screenings detect that blood pressure numbers are not in the normal range, more frequent screenings may be necessary.
Have cholesterol levels checked every five years, beginning at the age of 20. If cholesterol levels are not within the normal range, more frequent screenings may be necessary. Individuals with other risk factors for heart disease may require yearly cholesterol checks.
Speak with your doctor about performing a fasting blood sugar test to check for diabetes if you have a family history of the disease or have other risk factors for heart disease. Your physician will likely perform your first diabetes screening between the ages of 30 and 45, with retesting done every 3 to 5 years.
METHOD 6: LEARN HOW TO MANAGE STRESS.
Identify situations in your life that cause stress and try to eliminate or modify them. Learn coping mechanisms for sources of stress that cannot be eliminated, such as stress in the workplace. Explore stress relief options such as yoga, meditation, visualization, aromatherapy and deep breathing techniques.
Laugh. Laughing lowers blood pressure and heart rate, and may improve the lining of the blood vessels.
METHOD 7: GET ENOUGH SLEEP.
Take measures to improve your sleep quality and ensure that you get 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
Limit caffeine consumption and cut out all caffeine after 2 pm.
Try to go to sleep at the same time every night to regulate your sleep-wake cycle.
Exercise regularly to boost serotonin levels.
Refrain from watching television or using a laptop while in bed.
Contact your physician if home remedies to improve sleep quality prove to be ineffective.
THANK YOU FOR READING THIS. WE HOPE IT HELPS A LOT BETTER
METHOD 1: MAKE THE EFFORT TO QUIT SMOKING.
If you do not smoke now, don’t start. Find an appropriate method for quitting smoking that works for you. Some people prefer to wean themselves off cigarettes by cutting back on the amount smoked each day. Others find better results when they quit cold turkey and abruptly give up all cigarettes at once.
Speak with your doctor about medications and other smoking cessation aids that he can prescribe to help you break your smoking habit. Inquire about local support groups in your area for individuals who are trying to quit smoking.
Eliminate exposure to all tobacco products, including chewing tobacco. Stay away from smokeless tobacco. It contains nicotine, which narrows your blood vessels, forcing your heart to work harder. This leads to an increase in blood pressure and elevates your heart rate, which increases your risk of heart disease.
Steer clear of all second-hand smoke. In addition to nicotine, it is full of carbon monoxide, which replaces some of the oxygen in the bloodstream when inhaled. When this happens, the heart is forced to work harder to supply oxygen to the body, which causes blood pressure to increase and elevates heart disease risk.
METHOD 2: EXERCISE REGULARLY TO MAINTAIN YOUR WEIGHT.
Engage in some type of physical activity for a minimum of 30 minutes per day, 5 days per week or more. Not only does exercise directly lower heart disease risk, it also indirectly lowers your chances of developing heart disease.
Exercise regularly to help keep your weight at a healthy level, which reduces your risk of developing conditions that can lead to poor heart health, such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol and type 2 diabetes.
Exercise regularly to relax and unwind, which can significantly decrease your stress levels. Elevated stress levels are a risk factor for the development of heart disease.
Consider taking an active lifestyle approach to exercise if you cannot fit 30 consecutive minutes of exercise into your daily schedule. Increase the amount of physical activity you perform each day by incorporating tiny changes to your everyday routine. Take the stairs instead of the elevator, go for a 10 minute walk during your lunch break, walk to the bus stop to pick up the kids instead of driving, etc.
METHOD 3: CONSIDER OTHER FACTORS.
Carefully watch your weight as you age. As we age, we are more susceptible to weight gain. Individuals who are overweight are more likely to develop health conditions that increase their risk of developing heart disease, such as high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels and diabetes.
Calculate your body mass index (BMI) to determine if you have excess body fat and are at a healthy weight for your height. A BMI of 25 or higher is considered overweight and is associated with elevated heart disease risk. Although BMI is a good tool for providing general body fat information, it does not take into account specific body types or the fact that muscle weighs more than fat.
Use a tape measure to measure your waist circumference. A measurement of 40 inches or above is considered overweight for men, and a measurement of 35 inches or above is overweight for women. Because abdominal fat is especially dangerous and associated with an increased risk of heart disease, wait circumference measurements are an effective tool in weight management.
METHOD 4: EAT HEART-HEALTHY FOOD.
Choose foods that are low in unhealthy fats and cholesterol. Eliminate all trans-fat and saturated from your diet. Tran-fat is the most dangerous type of fat and is linked to a host of negative side effects. Both types of fat are linked to increases in blood pressure and an elevated risk of developing heart disease. Decrease the amount of foods you eat that contain these type of fats, such as red meats, full-fat dairy products, palm oils, fried foods, packaged foods, margarine, and processed baked goods.
Boost your intake of foods that contain Omega-3 fatty acids, a healthy type of polyunsaturated fat. Omega-3 fatty acids offer protection from heart disease and can be found in foods such as salmon and mackerel; flaxseed, walnut and canola oil and in certain vitamin and mineral supplements.
Increase the amount of fruits and vegetables that you consume each day. Set a goal of 10 servings of fresh or frozen produce per day. The healthy plant substances found in fruits and vegetables can help prevent heart disease.
Opt for whole grains. They are an excellent source of fiber and contain several healthy nutrients that can help regulate blood pressure and improve overall heart health.
Replace refined grain products with whole grain products.
Choose whole-wheat flours, 100% whole grain bread, high-fiber cereal, whole grain pasta, steel-cut oats, brown rice and barley.
Stay away from white or refined flours, white bread, frozen waffles, biscuits, corn bread, egg noodles, granola bars, high-fat snacks, quick breads, cakes, pies, donuts and buttered popcorn.
Add flaxseed to your diet. Flaxseeds are high in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids, and can help to lower cholesterol levels. The seeds can be eaten whole or ground up, and can be sprinkled on yogurt, oatmeal, cold cereal, and applesauce. They can be tossed in salads and added to smoothies.
Pay attention to your portion size when eating. Although what you eat is important for heart health, how much you eat is also a factor in improving overall heart health. Refrain from overeating, which can lead to excess fat, cholesterol and calorie intake.
METHOD 5: SCHEDULE HEALTH SCREENINGS
Have blood pressure checked regularly, a minimum of every two years. If screenings detect that blood pressure numbers are not in the normal range, more frequent screenings may be necessary.
Have cholesterol levels checked every five years, beginning at the age of 20. If cholesterol levels are not within the normal range, more frequent screenings may be necessary. Individuals with other risk factors for heart disease may require yearly cholesterol checks.
Speak with your doctor about performing a fasting blood sugar test to check for diabetes if you have a family history of the disease or have other risk factors for heart disease. Your physician will likely perform your first diabetes screening between the ages of 30 and 45, with retesting done every 3 to 5 years.
METHOD 6: LEARN HOW TO MANAGE STRESS.
Identify situations in your life that cause stress and try to eliminate or modify them. Learn coping mechanisms for sources of stress that cannot be eliminated, such as stress in the workplace. Explore stress relief options such as yoga, meditation, visualization, aromatherapy and deep breathing techniques.
Laugh. Laughing lowers blood pressure and heart rate, and may improve the lining of the blood vessels.
METHOD 7: GET ENOUGH SLEEP.
Take measures to improve your sleep quality and ensure that you get 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
Limit caffeine consumption and cut out all caffeine after 2 pm.
Try to go to sleep at the same time every night to regulate your sleep-wake cycle.
Exercise regularly to boost serotonin levels.
Refrain from watching television or using a laptop while in bed.
Contact your physician if home remedies to improve sleep quality prove to be ineffective.
THANK YOU FOR READING THIS. WE HOPE IT HELPS A LOT BETTER
Wednesday 30 October 2013
How to Have a Good Night's Sleep
Having trouble sleeping? The long term effects of sleep deprivation can
leave you physically and emotionally drained as much as waking life can.
Sleep is vital and having restful sleep helps your body to re-energize
and heal itself while your mind wanders around dreamland. Here's a
definitive guide to getting the best night's sleep possible.
Method 1: Developing a Schedule & Routine
1. Set a regular bedtime and wake-up time. For every single day of the week (weekends included), what time would be best for you to go to sleep and wake up? Keep in mind you want to squeeze in around 8 hours of sleep a night. If that means going to bed at 11, well, that means going to bed at 11. The idea here is that you'll be training your brain (that's why it has to be an everyday thing). When 11 PM rolls around, you'll enter automatic shut down. And then when 7 AM comes up, up and at 'em you'll be! What times would be ideal for you?. Adults need 7 to 9 hours, on average; however, if you're under 18, you need at least 8.5 -- probably more.
2. Stick to that time every day. Alright, so you've decided that you need to be up by 7 for work, so to get 8 hours of sleep a night you need to go to bed by 11. For starters, cancel all your late night plans, at least for the next two weeks or so. You must go to bed at that time and get up at that time. That's the only way it'll become easy to fall asleep and stay asleep.
4. Find your natural sleep schedule. On the off chance you have the power to do whatever the heck you want and could sleep till the cows came home if it so compelled you without incurring any consequences (really irritating the boss, for example), experiment with your body's natural sleep rhythms. Don't set the alarm for two weeks and go to bed when you get tired (but within a similar time frame every day). What times do you gravitate to? When does your body cue you for sleep and wakefulness?
Listen to calming music. This has the added benefit of drowning out the unwanted sounds of the city, too!
Method 2: Keeping Good Sleep Habits Throughout the Day
1. Avoid caffeine. You may think that that can of soda at dinnertime is sufficient time for the effects to wear off, but science says it's not. It can last in your system for up to twelve hours.[3] Heck, that means avoiding it at lunch! But at least science isn't taking away your morning cup of joe.
3. Get enough light in your day. Whether that means going for your lunch in the park or just throwing open all the curtains, make sure your brain gets stimulated by enough daylight. The sun is a natural cue to your brain that it's time to wake up. Need an excuse to walk the dog? There you go! Remove your sunglasses in the morning for an instant, "WOAH, I'M AWAKE" feeling. The more your eyes can soak in, the better. And if you've got a case of the winter woes, think of investing in a light therapy box. It causes your body to release melatonin the same way the sun does.
4. Keep dinner light. When you go to bed, you want to neither be hungry or stuffed -- either feeling can keep you awake. So if you tend to eat your dinner late, this is even more important. The alternative is going to bed later, but you don't want that either! Rich, fatty foods are harder for the stomach to digest. The heavier the food, the more conscious of it you'll be, making it harder to fall asleep. And be wary of spicy foods -- heartburn is just as unpleasant at night as it is during the day
Method 1: Developing a Schedule & Routine
1. Set a regular bedtime and wake-up time. For every single day of the week (weekends included), what time would be best for you to go to sleep and wake up? Keep in mind you want to squeeze in around 8 hours of sleep a night. If that means going to bed at 11, well, that means going to bed at 11. The idea here is that you'll be training your brain (that's why it has to be an everyday thing). When 11 PM rolls around, you'll enter automatic shut down. And then when 7 AM comes up, up and at 'em you'll be! What times would be ideal for you?. Adults need 7 to 9 hours, on average; however, if you're under 18, you need at least 8.5 -- probably more.
2. Stick to that time every day. Alright, so you've decided that you need to be up by 7 for work, so to get 8 hours of sleep a night you need to go to bed by 11. For starters, cancel all your late night plans, at least for the next two weeks or so. You must go to bed at that time and get up at that time. That's the only way it'll become easy to fall asleep and stay asleep.
- Yep, weekends, too. If you spend two days waking up at 10 instead of 7, when Monday rolls around you won't feel so well-rested with that super early wake-up call. Again -- this is just until this pattern is established. You'll get some wiggle room in a bit.
- Napping will be more beneficial to you that sleeping more when you finally do go to bed. Again, you want to keep to that schedule as much as possible. If you're running on empty, nap during the early hours of the day to catch up. Then, resume your schedule as normal.
4. Find your natural sleep schedule. On the off chance you have the power to do whatever the heck you want and could sleep till the cows came home if it so compelled you without incurring any consequences (really irritating the boss, for example), experiment with your body's natural sleep rhythms. Don't set the alarm for two weeks and go to bed when you get tired (but within a similar time frame every day). What times do you gravitate to? When does your body cue you for sleep and wakefulness?
- Everyone will be a little bit different. After a week or two, you may find that you naturally awaken at 8 AM (or 9, or 10). If you have the ability to do so, keep your schedule as close to your natural one as possible. It's what's best for you!
Listen to calming music. This has the added benefit of drowning out the unwanted sounds of the city, too!
- Read by soft light. Light is a huge no-no before bed, but if you keep it soft (more about this in a bit), that's fair game. Reading can adequately send you into hibernation mode (with the right book, of course).
- Stretch. Loosening up your body feels good any time of day, but it especially feels good before bed. Take them slowly and only do what's comfortable for your level of flexibility.
- Do a simple hobby. A simple one, that is. Anything that involves you going on autopilot and sitting in a comfy chair probably qualifies.
Method 2: Keeping Good Sleep Habits Throughout the Day
1. Avoid caffeine. You may think that that can of soda at dinnertime is sufficient time for the effects to wear off, but science says it's not. It can last in your system for up to twelve hours.[3] Heck, that means avoiding it at lunch! But at least science isn't taking away your morning cup of joe.
- In case it wasn't implied clearly enough, having loads of sugar isn't great for your sleepiness either. Even if you avoid the soda, stay away from the overly sugary juices and caffeine free but not sugar free beverages, too.
3. Get enough light in your day. Whether that means going for your lunch in the park or just throwing open all the curtains, make sure your brain gets stimulated by enough daylight. The sun is a natural cue to your brain that it's time to wake up. Need an excuse to walk the dog? There you go! Remove your sunglasses in the morning for an instant, "WOAH, I'M AWAKE" feeling. The more your eyes can soak in, the better. And if you've got a case of the winter woes, think of investing in a light therapy box. It causes your body to release melatonin the same way the sun does.
4. Keep dinner light. When you go to bed, you want to neither be hungry or stuffed -- either feeling can keep you awake. So if you tend to eat your dinner late, this is even more important. The alternative is going to bed later, but you don't want that either! Rich, fatty foods are harder for the stomach to digest. The heavier the food, the more conscious of it you'll be, making it harder to fall asleep. And be wary of spicy foods -- heartburn is just as unpleasant at night as it is during the day
Monday 28 October 2013
HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF
A lack of self-respect can prevent you from fulfilling your potential and developing healthy relationships that don’t devolve into power struggles. Take the following steps to learn how to respect yourself.
1. Think about what it means to respect someone.
The qualities that we respect vary from person to person, and the way
we express it varies from culture to culture. Generally, we respect
people who have more experience and are more accomplished than
ourselves. But there is also a basic level of respect that most people
will agree is a right, and does not need to be earned. Consider what
that kind of respect (which we'll refer to as basic respect) entails. Here are some widely agreed upon signals of respect:
- You don't steal from, harm, or insult them.
- You are honest with them.
- You listen to what they say, consider their opinion, and avoid interrupting them.
3. Recognize when people disrespect you and take steps to stop it. A person with self respect doesn't allow others to treat them badly, and would rather not associate with someone who is disrespectful. This might seem obvious, but there are many times when we accept being treated badly (in both big and small ways) because we believe the person doesn't know any better, or because we're not willing to let that person go, or because we're too down on ourselves to believe we deserve better. When someone doesn't give you basic respect, you need to be able to say, in one way or another, "You just disrespected me and that's not acceptable to me. If you don't respect me, I won't spend time with you anymore." Can you say that, and mean it? Can you turn your back on someone who's clearly shown that they don't respect you? Once you do, you'll feel your sense of self-respect go up.
- How to Recognize a Manipulative or Controlling Relationship - It can be hard to see when a person close to us is being disrespectful, especially if they're subtle and sneaky and it's been going on for a long time.
- How to Stop Being Needy - Many times in dating or friendships we let people walk all over us because we feel needy.
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser - Paying attention to everyone else's needs but your own is a classic sign of low self-respect.
- How to Practice Nonviolent Communication - When you do confront someone about their disrespectful behavior, try to stick to these communication guidelines.
5. Get to know yourself. The
more you understand about yourself, the more you'll see and appreciate
how unique you really are, and the more you'll respect yourself.
Discover your principles,
personality, and talents. Stop pandering to other people's approval and
start developing your own standards. Someone else might respect a fancy
title, but you might respect creativity. Whose opinion matters more, in
this case?
HOW TO KISS
This Blog Is To People Who Might Find It Awkward To State How They Really Feel When It Comes To Kissing Their Partner And Hints On How To Go About It.
I'm Sure You Remember How Your First Experience Was And A Lot Of Awkward Things That Happened When You Wanted To KissYour Partner, How Sweaty You Got, How Fast Your Heart Raced, How You Couldn't Put Together The Right Words To Tell Your Partner How You Really Feel Even When You Don't Have Enough Experience.
- Get caught looking (briefly) at the other person's lips.
- Don't purse your lips. Keep them softly parted — not so much that you could breathe comfortably through the opening, but enough that you could bite your bottom lip easily.
- Make your mouth appealing. Use chapstick or lipgloss to smooth over flaky lips, and keep your breath fresh with mints or spray. Avoid gum, which you might have to spit out awkwardly if the other person goes in for a kiss.
2. Break the kiss barrier (optional). If you're feeling brave, test the waters with a small kiss on the hand or the cheek. If the other person seems interested, it's probably safe to proceed with a kiss on the mouth.
- If you're kissing a girl: Take her hand and slowly lift it to your mouth. Gently press your lips into the back of your hand for 2 or 3 seconds before breaking away.
- If you're kissing a guy: Lean in and plant a 2- or 3-second kiss on his cheek. Keep your lips soft, and avoid puckering like you would if you were kissing a family member. If you want your intentions to be extra clear, aim for the part of his cheek just to the side of his lips.
3. Set the mood with a romantic compliment. Go big and pay the other person the sincerest compliment you can think of. If you get it right, the other person might take the lead and lean in to kiss you.
- Say it in an intimate way. Lower the volume and tone of your voice slightly, and lock eyes. Not only does this communicate that you have deep feelings for this person, it entices him or her to come closer to hear you.
- Focus on an alluring quality. Even if you truly think that your date
is an amazing basketball player, now might not be the best time to
bring it up. Instead, base your compliment on how you see your date as a
romantic partner. Here are some possibilities you can try:
- "You are SO beautiful."
- "Your eyes drive me crazy."
- "I love to see you smile."
- "I can't even believe I'm lucky enough to be with you right now."
4. If all else fails, go for broke and state your intentions. If your date hasn't picked up on any of your hints and you're dying to lock lips, you might as well be straightforward and just ask if you can kiss him or her. Don't worry, though — you can be direct while still being romantic and compelling. Try these phrases if you're at a loss for words:
- "I'd love nothing more than to kiss you right now."
- "I'm sorry if this is too forward, but I'd really like to kiss you."
- "I want to kiss you so much that it is just about killing me."
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